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Exploring the Absent Father Experience
A MAGAZINE FOUNDED JANUARY, 2011

 

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THE FIRST BOOK IN THE SHELF

I have a stack of books to tell you about. One is: FINDING MY FATHER by Rod McKuen, the poet, song writer and performer. (It can be had through the library. I just noticed there are about 50 copies available for a penny on Amazon. I am not an Amazon Associate and do not receive remuneration for books I recommend.)

McKuen's memoir is a well-written highly detailed account of his search for his father, most through investigators that he hired. If someone were looking for their father even without an investigator, the great value of this book is the thorough description of the many many dead ends at which McKuen and his hired searchers arrived. Asking friends of friends of one's mother does sometimes yield a successful connection.

This quote from the book is thought-provoking: "...unless you were born or brought up under anything but ordinary circumstances it is impossible to understand how much some of us with no parents, one good parent, two bad parents, or even two exceptionally fine adoptive parents, need to know about their origins." 

Since I did not grow up under "ordinary" parental circumstances, I do understand the need some people have to find their fathers or birth parents. Maybe I'm a dreamer, but I think others who do grow up with two parents they know can understand what it is like to experience an absent father when people stop shoving the subject out of sight and mind.

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FIRST STEPS, AFTER MILLET and VAN GOGH, By Jim Morin, 2011, watercolor and pencil, 9" X 6.5".

 

OUR CONTINUING SERIES

 IN SEARCH OF A FATHER

 

A Visit With...




 Hilary Bunch 
 
41, of Florida, USA
 
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Nicole Aure

 

65, of  Cannes La Bocca, France

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To read the story of her search for her father click here.

 

"Girl Conceived"

anonymous

about 30, New York 

 

To Read the Story of Her Search for Her Father Click Here.


 

 

 

   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   


 
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"I loved it." -- Sara Nelson, as books editor of O, The Oprah Magazine 

"When I was 13 or so, the Vietnam War in full flower, reading Graham Greene's The Quiet American let me appreciate fiction in a whole new way. Years later, Danielle Flood's riveting memoir-cum-mystery-story has let me appreciate Greene and his novel -- and the intersections of fiction and nonfiction -- in new ways. Such a story! And so beautifully told." -- Kurt Andersen, novelist, host of the public radio show Studio 360 

"Passionate and unflinchingly honest, this is a fascinating memoir that explores the tangled connections between Graham Greene’s fictional version of wartime Indochina, and the real people there whose actions have haunted the author for most of her life. She is the child of an affair so much like the one described in the love triangle of Greene’s novel that she is perfectly right to make her startling claim, “I am a sequel he never wrote.”----Michael Shelden, author of Graham Greene: The Enemy Within and Indiana State University Professor. 

"Every once in a while a memoir will appear that has the power to stop us dead...This book relates the triumph of the indomitable human spirit in the most trying of life's circumstances..." -- Jo Manning, biographer and novelist

"Extraordinary and spectacular...a story that connect powerfully and poignantly with most of us." -- David Lawrence, Jr., international child advocate and former publisher of The Miami Herald 

"...a work that will outlive us all: compelling, acutely honest and profoundly moving, without being whiny or cruel. That's rare." -- Joe McGinniss, author, The Selling of the President and others. 

TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE UNQUIET DAUGHTER, CLICK HERE.

 
 

Below, the author reads several sections from THE UNQUIET DAUGHTER to a crowd of more than a hundred at the Books and Books in Coral Gables, Florida. During the Q & A she explains how she found foreign service and Central Intelligence Agency officers who worked in Saigon with her parents more than 65 years ago, amongst other matters. In the video below, Mitchell Kaplan, founder of Books and Books and the Miami International Book Fair, book seller and movie producer, introduces former Miami Herald publisher Dave Lawrence to the audience of some 100 persons. Lawrence introduces Danielle Flood. 

Danielle Flood - The Unquiet Daughter from Xstreamed on Vimeo.

 


 

THE ROVING STROBE

THE ABSENT FATHERS OF:

(To read about them, click on a name)

 

Audrey Hepburn, John Lennon, and more to come...

 
     
     

 

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