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Wednesday, May 4, 2011
How to Find Your Father


FindingYourFather.com has a new page today – with tips on how to find one’s father, or anyone, I suppose. I wrote it off the top of my head and will be adding to it as I think of more avenues onto which father seekers can venture. Originally, I thought it would be best to focus this site on the decision-making process one needs to go through before looking for a father – the various possible outcomes of various searches – because you need to be prepared. You need to get your head ready and that of anyone who will support you in this endeavor – a friend, an adopted mother, your biological mother, a grandparent. Because the search for a long lost father, or a loved one, is one of the most emotionally-wracking endeavors a person can undertake. It needs to be done carefully and deliberately. Ideally, you should try to get some time off from work or school around the time you reach your answers if you can. Because it’s exhausting. I know, because I had to look for my father, I've interviewed a number of people who've looked for their fathers and read books by father seekers.


Sharing the experiences of others who have searched for their fathers, or not searched,  will remain the prime focus of FindingYourFather.com. I decided to create a How To Tips page because though I don’t know how to find everyone -- and some people can’t be found – I realized I can try, because I can – many reporters can. And so the development of this page is underway.


Along the way, a Facebook friend learned of this site and told me about his experience in finding the parents of an adopted cousin without that cousin’s parents names. This is our first guest writer – Joe Holt. You can read his account of what happened and his step by step guide to how he did this on Ancestry.com, with which we are not affiliated, by clicking here.


I welcome comments and questions. And wish the best to all.   

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FIRST STEPS, AFTER MILLET and VAN GOGH, By Jim Morin, 2011, watercolor and pencil, 9" X 6.5".





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